What are you afraid of? No… seriously… I mean… what in particular… are your unique fears? Are you afraid of the dark? Are you afraid of heights? Are you afraid… someone in your family is going to get cancer this year? Are you afraid you’re going to run out of money and be forced to be a Walmart greeter when you’re 80? Are you afraid your kids are going to embarrass you somehow… by getting bad grades… or by falling in with the wrong crowd… or by getting arrested for getting drunk and running through the courtyard of a convent naked screaming God loves my penis? Well today… I’m going to help you identify exactly what it is within you that causes you to have your specific unique fears. Let’s GO.
Welcome to the I AM Podcasts presentation of A Master’s Class on Fear, Part 4. I am your presenter, Sean Webb.
So what are you afraid of? Wait… before you answer that… don’t tell me… I don’t even need to know. Why? Because if you recall from the last few episodes during our Master’s Class on Fear, we explained the exact mind process that causes fear. So you don’t need to tell me what your fears are to figure out how they come about in your head.
You already know that you have a portion of your mind called the ego… which is the laundry list of things that you attach to in your mind when you think of… you… and that along with variances in body structure helps make you an individual on this planet of people. And you know at any time that one of those attachments of your mind falls into a threatening situation, some level of fear occurs within you.
And based on the Equation of Emotion, you know that how attached you are to the thing on your sense of self list… determines how much fear you feel… like when a runaway bus is heading straight toward a child in your family… that child being a high power attachment in your mind… you feel a high level of fear maybe even a panic. In contrast… when your favorite team is about to lose the Super Bowl with a last minute opposing team field goal… that team being a lower level attachment of identity that your mind makes… that situation of course winds up causing you a lower level of anxiety… which may present as a concern about whether your team is going to be able to block the winning field goal attempt… still a real fear, but now you know why it’s different.
And you know that on the other side of the Equation of Emotion, your Perception of Reality also contributes to the level of fear you may experience as well. Like when a bear is running after you versus when someone in a bear costume is running after you. Perception adjusts fear.
So you know… better than any Psychology or Neuroscience PhD knows at this point… how fear comes about from within you. You know the mind’s process. You now have the answer to this 4000 year old riddle of psychology.
But… did you know that you could also use the process in reverse to identify the things way under the surface in your mind that are causing all your fears… so that you can reduce and even eliminate all your unnecessary fears by changing your mind?
I’m not afraid of being embarrassed. I’m not afraid of getting sick. I’m not afraid of my family members dying. I’m not afraid of failure. I’m not even afraid of death.
Fear doesn’t exist here! How did I do that?
Well… as we mentioned a couple episodes ago. If one side or the other of the Equation of Emotion doesn’t exist… no emotion is the result. Including the emotion of fear. Let’s take a look at that.
[Removing Your Fears]
If you have no attachment to something that is being threatened at the moment… you have no fear.
I’m gonna pop this balloon, I swear to God.
And you’re all like… fucking pop the balloon. Why do I give a shit?
But if I said that to my two year old son after letting him play with this balloon for 5 minutes. Tears of fear come a streamin’.
Similarly, if you have no perception of a threat to something you are attached to… you could be in real danger but not be experiencing fear, because you don’t know about the threat. Like if I took the balloon outside and popped it. And the more attached you are to whatever it is, and the more real you perceive the threat… the stronger the reaction of fear is.
And if you can prove fear doesn’t work this way, I’m getting ready to announce a $10,000 reward for the first person who can prove it doesn’t… but in the meantime… why can’t we use this process in reverse to help us better understand what causes our personal fears? Well, we can.
If you know you are anxious about something, or fearful about something, or nervous, or whatever extreme along the graph of fear that you are experiencing… you then have the ability to sit down and ask yourself two questions: 1) What is it that I am attached to that I’m worried about? And 2) what is the threat that I am perceiving?
Because without both of those two things… it is impossible for you have any fear in your life. You have to have both sides of the equation.
For instance… if you’re afraid that your kid is going to get bad grades in school, or if you’re in school, you’re afraid of your parents seeing the bad grades, but you’ve never tracked it back to WHY you’re afraid of the bad grades situation… well… it’s pretty easy to see that the bad grades are the Reality as Perceived in the Equation of Emotion… right?… the RP. And from there… the EP… the expectation or preference regarding the idea you’re attached to is easy to figure out.
For instance… if you’re the parent in that situation, it could be that you’re attached ideas of your kid getting into a good college as being the thing at risk. You could be attached ideas of your kid being the smartest in his class… as what’s being at threat. If you’re REALLY sick, you could care how those bad grades reflect on your ability to be a parent. Get over yourself if that’s the case.
But regardless of what it is… there is something there you have attached to… that you can ferret out… without to much thinking about it now that you know how fear works within you.
You can imagine if you’re the kid who’s afraid of the parents seeing the bad grades. The kid is certainly in the position where he or she could be attached to what the parents think about the child. Or they could certainly be attached to not wanting to get in trouble. Or they could be attached to not wanting to face the reality of the situation that a parental conversation would cause. And all those things are threatened when a D or F is pending. And those kind of attachments that are likely when a student is fearful about a parent seeing their bad grades.
Thankfully I grew up during a time that dot matrix printers printed out report cards that were automatically sent in the mail. And it was too easy to change a D or F to a B with an extra few dots from a #2 pencil before Mom got home. Man my son is screwed. I know every trick in the book.
And so similarly… with whatever it is you fear… you can track it back to the Reality that you are Perceiving… and the specific attachment that is being threatened. And why is this important?
Because if you can adjust one or both of the EP and RP in the Equation of Emotion… fear is lessened and can even be eliminated from your life entirely in that situation.
Great enlightened Samurai warriors did not have an attachment to their bodies as part of their sense of self… they were something more… so they could run into a field of battle where they were completely outnumbered with a fearless fervor that disheartened their enemies and created an environment for their unlikely underdog slaughters. Their attachment of mind was that it was good to die an honorable death. So fear was not part of the equation for them… if anything… they were afraid to run away and die a coward’s death.
You might better understand the psychology of kamikaze pilots and suicide bombers now, incidentally. They attach to different ideas, and fear no longer is a factor in them completing their mission.
But regarding you… and your happiness with this new model of understanding fear… for human happiness and life fulfillment to occur… one of the oldest messages of divinity is inscribed at the Oracle at Delphi and is also the thematic center of most religions: Know thyself. And if you’ve been paying attention… this map right here… can basically help you plot and point to what you think of as your mind’s QUOTE UNQUOTE self.
You can map your tendencies of how you see things through your Reality as Perceived, and you can certainly map your attachments that cause every emotion you have ever and will ever experience. And what can you do at the point that you know those two things about yourself? You can change things. And adjusting just one side of the Equation of Emotion changes your entire emotional life.
It’s scientific fact that neuroplasticity exists… meaning that your brain rewrites itself over time based on your thought patterns… and you can change the patterns of your brain by changing your thoughts… which will change the unconscious tendencies of how you see things. You can pick up a good book about this that just came out called, “The Emotional Life of Your Brain”, by Richard Davidson. He’s a neuroscientist who has half the solution almost figured out. If you want to get a free audio book copy go to audibletrial.com/IAMSpirituality, and you can get it for free for signing up for the risk free 30 day trial.
And on the other side of the Equation of Emotion, it’s a fact that you can also consciously decide what you attach to and what you don’t attach to in regards to the definition of your life and your world. If you remove an attachment from your mind… you no longer can feel fear regarding that attachment. Note that it’s difficult to remove ideas of your body from sense of self, but it can be done through spiritual enlightenment.
And if you change just one side or the other in the Equation of Emotion… you can reduce and even eliminate fear, anger, sadness, worry, regret, and a myriad of negative emotions. Permanently. And stand by for the announcement of the $10,000 reward to the first person who proves this ISN’T how it works.
Your brain is designed to create a fear reaction whenever your “self” falls into a threat situation. But the train runs off the tracks of that process when IDEAS… that get connected to your sense of self… start triggering the fear response when your mind starts perceiving a threat to those idea attachments within your mind. Go back through the last couple episodes for multiple examples there.
And so if you can adjust your attachments… you adjust your fear. If you can adjust your perceptions… you adjust your fear (and every other emotion, by the way).
Now here’s the big mind fuck. The bigger truth that our new understanding of fear reveals… is that even if you think you’re being altruistic in being afraid for someone else… in reality… the ugly truth about fear is that… no matter who you’re fearful for… or what part of another person’s life your fearful about for them… the reality is that you’re really afraid for yourself. You’re afraid for YOUR attachment to the idea that you have in your head for that other person. What you are fearful for is YOUR attachment, which may be an altruistic wish for something like… your wish for someone to be happy. But all fear still comes back to you.
So regardless of whether any fear you experience is for you, or for someone you love based on an altruistic attachment… fear is selfish. Fear is based around and dependent on your ego. And as soon as you understand that you better, you will understand that fear… is a lie. It’s a falsity. It’s an illusion. Because it’s based on the false illusory self of the ego. And as much as people who don’t fully understand fear would like to argue that it’s a beneficial evolutionary necessity required for extended human survival…
that’s bullshit, and it’s time to get beyond fear.
And so we’ll discuss the methods of removing fear from your existence entirely next episode when we hopefully conclude this Master’s Class on Fear. So for now… for the I AM Podcast’s Master’s Class on Fear… I am Sean Webb.
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