Who Says a Heterosexual Guy Can’t Change His Last Name at His Wedding? This Ex-Military Guy Did Just That

Who Says a Heterosexual Guy Can’t Change His Last Name at His Wedding? This Ex-Military Guy Did Just That

“Hi, I’m Sean!” I say those words all the time, usually sticking my hand out for the expected and almost requisite handshake. I may have even said it to you if we met at this year’s SAND conference in San Jose. But when I say those words, what is it that I am really telling you? What’s in any name, really? Shakespeare suggested this idea in Romeo and Juliet when Juliet argued to Romeo, “a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” When she said it, she was saying to Romeo that his last name didn’t matter to her when discussing matters of true love. She was suggesting their names didn’t quantify or define the essence of their humanity, or consciousness of their character., or content of their hearts. She was saying that who and what they were in reality had nothing to do with the silly words that people used whenever they pointed their fingers at either of them, or that those same people used when they wanted to talk about the couple when they were not in the room. So let me now turn the question around. What in your name? Do you think it represents you? Do you see any special meaning or history or legacy connected with your name, beyond the governmental and societal tracking of your activities, ideas, ownerships, and whereabouts for other people’s purposes? If we were to change your name from whatever it was yesterday to start calling you by a different name tomorrow, would it matter to you? It might. We often don’t understand how mentally connected we get...