Accept, Express, Develop YOURSELF!

Hi Everyone, It takes courage to face the parts of us we hide from the world and from ourselves. But when we are willing to explore the possibility that we are more than who we have been led to believe we are, GREAT results evolve. Emotional intelligence is about developing awareness of the emotions in ourselves and people around us. It is about developing the smarts to navigate our lives in the best possible way for us. We all use emotional intelligence everyday to say the right thing to get what we want or to make an impression. We use it to survive, but the simple fact is we are often using it without a healthy value system. We are using our emotional intelligence habitually from old programs rather than from a place of conscious awareness. As we follow old programming, react to things that happen to us in the same ways over and over, think the same sort of thoughts again and again, we simply continue creating neural patterns in our brain that support the old way. In effect it keeps it easy to live the same life we’ve lived so far. To change our lives we must change the thought system that has been allowed to cluster and flourish in our mind. When we use our natural EI to make the choice to construct a positive value system, think healthier thoughts and grow different neural clusters, ones that support rather than sabotage, we cannot help but start seeing awesome changes! Sometimes this can be uncomfortable and scary because it is unusual, we may have no frame of...

BIG Eyes Watching….

Hi Everyone, If there is one thing I have learned through my role as a mother of eight it is that they are watching us! And not just watching but absorbing our energy and ideas, the good ideas, the bad ideas and the downright UGLY ideas we hold, often secretly, tight to our chest. As parents we do the very best we can with what we know but it astounds me that what we know is often ‘very little about who we truly are…’ When we are willing to take the plunge and get to know ourselves we flick an integrity switch that makes the results of our parenting experiments so much more pleasing! Children respond to connection and integrity above most else! As we journey within, on an adventure of awareness, we soon discover that we are really a product of what went on before. Our wonderful parents doing what they knew, parenting us with the techniques they learned from their parents and programming us with their values and concepts. Mostly it seems humanity is busy creating mini me’s that then go on to populate the world with more of the same. Is this a biological urge or is it simply the result of fear based unconsciousness. Could it be that navigating our world became more and more difficult and as each new fear kicked in, the mammoth, the lion, the car, the murderer…. as expectations of church and society clouded our natural joy, did we give up and curl up inside our psyche to wait it out? Hmmm… I know my journey as led me to discover...

Is This Who I Really AM?

Hi Everyone, Have you ever noticed that some people are always late? Maybe you are even one of them! Why do you think that is? When I was a child my parents were consistently late, no matter where they were going or who they were going to see. They would send us to the car to wait and about twenty long minutes later they’d amble on down and we’d head off only to be hours late. Even if we had to catch a train or be at the airport we’d be speeding to get there, hurtling down the transit lane to try and bypass other traffic. I personally found the behaviour frustrating and embarrassing! As I got older I realised that my parents would enthusiastically agree to attend various events then immediately regret their ready YES. They would then carry on and complain incessantly about the fact that they were expected to turn up, filling the lead up time with a sense of negativity. My parents are creative people and very loving but at the same time the sense of social anxiety in the house prior to spending time with ‘outsiders’ (being family didn’t preclude you from being considered an outsider either!) was palpable and became a type of programming for the four of us children. Now, after years of personal development and self-examination I know that my parents were late because they were held back by fear. As much as they may have deeply loved their friends and enjoyed their company the fear that they would be exposed in some way to be ‘less than’ was quite a...

LOVE- Do You Realise We Are Bathing In It?

Love is the sparkle in the air that makes its way into my body upon each breath. Love is the soupy connection thick with life yet invisible to the eye…UNLESS we are ready to really see. If we slow down enough, LOVE becomes clear in the way the light hits the world around you. I am talking about everything too, not just the natural world: the paint on the walls the plastic toys, the electricity poles outside your bedroom window. I am talking about the leaves in the trees and the crumpled newspaper rolling in the wind. Nothing and everything is manmade and Godmade there is no differentiation when viewing through the eyes of love. In a way it is the ability to separate the fear from the reality so that nothing exists but the truth. When we develop that skill we begin to live in BLISS. Tonight I lay with my three year old and listened to my twelve year old read a story. With the pressure taken off me to read, I was able to relax. As I did so, the light in the room took on a type of shimmer. My mind settled to a slow honey flow and the colours around me began to dance. I realised as I absorbed this, that although I had lain in this room a hundred times or more in the same position, reading similar stories at around the same time each night, I had been missing something AWESOME! I think we take love for granted to such a degree that we don’t even realise that we are ingesting it,...

Emotional Intelligence Equals Lower Stress, Greater Success!

Hi Everyone, You know my heart is switched on to this subject, every cell of my being knows that emotional intelligence development will make all the difference individually and collectively. Most of my certainty comes less from the hours of research and more from being a mother. Watching eight children grow from tiny to HUGE over twenty three years has enlightened me..and frightened me! Parenthood has been such an eye opener, to see how programmable we humans actually are. What was hypothetical to me twenty years ago is now a concrete reality as my eldest children are clearly walking my talk of way back then! What I have noticed is that they are quicker to change than I was, that along with all the uncertainty that they picked up from me as a teenage mother they also got a good measure of philosophical drive and desire to evolve! Each of my children has enlightened a different section of my path and helped me navigate the world of Emotional Intelligence Education. watching them it became easy to see that although one way won’t work for everyone, the simple acknowledgement of that fact opens the door to what WILL work. I have also seen that other people are, to a degree, beholden to our energy in the moment and to the energy dynamic created in the interaction. It is possible to withdraw ourselves from an intense situation but as we all know once the energy is up it tends to be quite difficult. This is why emotional intelligence development is essential for smooth passage throughout our lives. What is Emotional Intelligence?...

A Question for You To Help Our Kids

Hi Everyone! Instead of an article today I would like to pose a question- this question will serve two purposes: 1. It has the power to spark a plethora of healing activity. AND 2. Your answers (please comment!) will aid me in compiling a database of information that will be used to revolutionize education; giving children the opportunity to develop the aspects if their mind that are essential for living a fulfilling, rewarding and joyful life. The question has two parts: Part A : What is the best thing a teacher ever said to you as a child in school? Part B : What is the worse thing a teacher ever said to you as a child in school? If you allow yourself to sink into the question, your answers will come and for many they will bring with them powerful healing. For some it will be in the opportunity to forgive while for others it will be in the awareness gained from revisiting this aspect of your past. Taking the time to examine a select piece of personal history like this often enlightens us to our repetitive behavior giving us insight into our actions as educators, parents and friends. Obviously bringing this information into  our conscious mind makes it possible to accept and change! So instead of rambling on today, I will leave you to sit in the power of your being and open up to the potential these memories offer! Thank you so much for your contribution to my database of information (any comments I use will remain anonymous). Have an AWESOME day! Until next time, Keep...